Posted by fiji on June 20, 2007, at 21:08:05
In reply to She called and I missed it, posted by jammerlich on June 20, 2007, at 16:50:03
I am going through the same thing w/my therapist. Things have been very tough the last few weeks with many changes in our family's lives--almost all good, but comings and goings that bring up lots of feelings for me.
So I got through one particularly rough day, but called her the next day (on Saturday) and asked her to call me. She had told me she would be around over the weekend.
So I kept my phone with me every second and she didn't call. She ended up leaving me a message very late on Sunday and did call back on Monday. Well, by that time it was too late and I was really angry she hadn't called earlier and I told her so. She was quite surprised, and then I decided to skip a week (that will show her, I thought!). I had my appt today and as I was driving out there the thought occurred to me that I had a responsibility in this situation, too. I should have told her it was important and for her to call me ASAP, and she would have. But I didn't give her any reason to think it was that important.
So we talked about it, and she helped me to understand why I would naturally have been angry (a mother thing, which we've been working on).
I feel so much better, and I reminded myself that she can't help me if I don't talk, that I have to tell her how bad I feel because surprise! she can't read my mind.
Good luck,
antigua
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