Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 13, 2007, at 16:36:02
In reply to Re: Anxiety Plus Today....long vent ;o( » B2chica, posted by LadyBug on June 13, 2007, at 14:06:27
> Thanks for the kind words B2chica and for telling me I'm a good mom. I try to be. I've spent hours and hours trying to see that my girls have what they need to deal with the family issues.
wow- that's really awesome. I had to literally drag my mom to see my T, and set up her own therapy, which I guess might be helping a bit. Giving your children the tools and the resources is SO important. That means that you're giving them choices and freedom too.
> I was thinking about my daughter struggling with female's. It's because the first lady Dr. that she saw lectured her on drugs/drinking etc. The lady APRN today lectured her about having sex at her young age and how it will affect her in the future when her and her boyfriend breakup as most teenagers do. And I tell her all the time the things she needs to hear about her choices etc. She's learned to get what she wants by being angry and me giving in to her because I can only take so much of her being angry with me. The APRN today had a great explaination for this kind of behavior. I need to just let her get angry with me and not give in to her no matter what. I'd be happier as a mom and she'll have to learn to deal with the answer "NO"!!!
I agree with (sorry crappy memory) above poster, about how your daughter feels comfortable enough t share that with you. And how she is aware of it herself. that's MAJOR. I was even thinking that maybe she has problems with women in general, but NOT with her mom in particular. She may be thinking about difficult teachers, difficult relatives, difficult doctors. All of these different and challenging relationships to figure out in only a few short adolescent years.
> Sorry for rambling. I go see my T tomorrow, she has no idea of today's drama, but she's going to find out. I need things to feel balanced for me before she leaves for a month. I'm scared in many ways.
I'm so sorry that it's so hard right now LadyBug- but I think you're doing so well as a mother. I wish my mom had made the choices that you're making, regardless of how terrifying they must feel as you're flying by the seat of your pants
take good care,
-Ll
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