Posted by Happyflower on June 12, 2007, at 21:00:43
In reply to Re: *Trigger *questions Lots of mother triggers » Happyflower, posted by sunnydays on June 12, 2007, at 20:27:55
I think the one thing that saved me from being really messed up, was that I knew better, and knew what she was doing wasn't a normal mother. BUt I was still scared of her, still am in fact. My T called her "one scary bitch".
I learned my values and self worth from others who cared about me. A lot of teachers liked me and helped me in my life and my best friends parents where like parents to me since I was over at their house a lot.
I learned about a better life through , The Brady Bunch, Little House, Happydays, Leave it to Beaver, etc. I had different models to see of how a parent should be.
When I deceided to have kids, I had to really read up on the parenting books. I must have read them all. All were a little different, but they had some of the same stuff too. So far it has worked with my kids. I don't spank them, but they are disaplined in other ways, and it is harder to parent without resorting to spanking as a first step. But I am glad to have stopped the cycle of abuse.
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