Posted by peddidle on May 4, 2007, at 0:32:28
In reply to Extreme Honesty -- really long, posted by Daisym on May 3, 2007, at 20:47:07
Daisy, your post was really touching. I think you were very brave for divulging all those feelings. I wish I could tell you that it was exactly the right thing to do, but, unfortunately, I don't think I've experienced such an intense situation. All I can say is, I wish I had the courage you do to tell your T exactly what you are thinking, exactly when you are thinking it. I have no doubt that my T would be unconditionally accepting, and never freak out about whatever I said, and I know she truly wants to know what's on my mind, but I have such difficulty translating my thoughts into words.
Based on how you described these last several interactions with your T, I can't imagine he would freak out about your extreme honesty. It seems like he truly cares about you, as person, not just as a client. I know that my T cares about my me as a person, as well. I think that is the mark of a really good T-- when they are able to see their clients as real people, and, while not completely disregarding the necessity for some type of boundaries, to realize that some clients may need a little extra contact and help at times. My T often asks me to email her if I think of something that I want her to be aware of, but that I know I will have difficulty bringing up in session. She even asked me to call her one day so that she would know that I was OK. I think your T calling to check on you is just one thing that demonstrates his genuine concern for you.
I am sure the time your T has to reflect on what you told him will only enable him to figure out how he can best help you. I worry that my T will think I'm too much, and get sick of me, as well. But I also know, as I'm sure you do, that that isn't rational.
I hope you feel better soon, and that your next session goes well.
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