Posted by pegasus on April 9, 2007, at 0:05:46
In reply to Thanks but pls dont be sad for me...It's kool okay, posted by Scentedgarden on April 8, 2007, at 20:38:12
Scentedgarden, you've asked what is the point of having these feelings for our Ts, when they don't feel the same way toward us. When you ask that, I always get confused. Is there supposed to be a point? I thought that feelings just were what they were. If you can't find a point to them, it doesn't mean they're not valid, or real, or whatever you are trying to communicate. In fact, I have a hard time with the idea of finding a point to any feelings that I have about anything. Maybe I don't understand what you are trying to ask.
The closest I can come, I guess, is to think of the reasons I've read for why we have emotions in general. So, you know, they say we feel fear, because it helps us avoid dangers, so it helps us survive. So, then, I guess we feel attachment to people who give us what we need, emotionally. I think that is as much of a point to feeling love for our Ts as there is any point to any other feelings.
To me, the question of whether my T loves me back is kind of moot with respect to what I feel for her. I feel what I feel, and if she doesn't feel it back, that doesn't make it wrong, or pointless, or invalid. She has her own feelings for me, whatever they are. And me loving her doesn't make her feelings insufficient, or whatever. Do you see what I mean?
I hope this isn't too far off the mark of what you were getting after. I'm really trying to give you my answer to your question.
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