Posted by peddidle on December 12, 2006, at 23:43:06
In reply to Re: I don't know...(sorry, really long!) » peddidle, posted by annierose on December 12, 2006, at 22:13:03
> I read your post and it's not weird at all. It is perfectly "normal" (and I hate that word) to miss seeing your therapist. She holds a big place in your emotional world right now, and you look forward to her being there at your special time each week. There will be a void. There's no question about that.
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> As to how to help with that void --- well that's the bigger question. Everyone deals with that so differently. I spend time here for starters. My babble friends always seem to understand and help me with long breaks. I also practice yoga and go more often when I'm not seeing my therapist. Is there something special that you can do for yourself? Massage? Pedicure? Something that you can do during your regular appointment time?**That's a good idea...I do love pedicures! :) My guess is I'll either be sleeping (another way to make the time pass quickly), or at my internship during that exact time though...maybe it will have to be a little later than my usual time. If I'm home, I'll also have to be a little discreet about it, because my parents don't know that I see her. They'd probably be happy that I've been seeing a therapist, but for some reason I don't want to tell them. But that's a different issue entirely. lol
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> I think I understand your need to want to run into her. You want to see her more often. Do you see her? Does she acknowledge you?**She does acknowledge me. Usually it's just a "what's up" or "how's it going" type of thing, or just a wave or a smile. Last week I got a little ways in front of her and she actually called out to me to ask how I was doing. However I was being weird and I thought I heard her calling me, but I wasn't 100% sure, and I didn't want to turn around unless I was sure, so she finally just yelled out my last name. haha She's funny like that. Of course then I also missed that much more time (probably just a minute or so in reality) talking to her.
> It would freak me out - I would probably go the opposite longer way just to avoid running into my therapist - but I suffer from social anxiety so I guess that fits me.
**I definitely understand that, I have social anxiety too. It's weird... I want to run into her, but I don't want her to know that I know that she sees me (did that make any sense?). Hence the situation I just mentioned.
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> But yes, I think your T meant it when she said to call her if you "freak out". Some therapist are better at phone conversations than others. I tend to hold my angst until I do get to see her in person. When we had our longest break, I did call her during a distressing situation. She left me a message that helped so I didn't call back even though she left her cell phone number. Just hearing her message was enough comfort for me. Just knowing that she knew what was happening.**Yeah, I don't think I'd ever actually call, I have emailed her a few times in the past though. If I did email her, I wouldn't really expect a reply, even though she always writes back...it's just like you said, for some reason, I would feel better knowing that she knew what was going on.
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> Good luck and stick around babble over break. It's okay to jump in and out of babbleland. No one keeps track.**Thank you soooo much for your advice and support!!!
> Just don't forget to collect your $200 for passing GO.
**And thanks for the reminder--**Cha-ching!** :)
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