Posted by cassie17 on November 15, 2006, at 20:56:57
In reply to Re: my friends jumped me :(, posted by kerria on November 15, 2006, at 17:26:42
Yes, Kerria, it does help to hear that you find reading your words back to be very painful.
No, it's not okay that some people wrote rude and hurtful things to you, especially one person who would just write those mean one liners.BUT, there was a lot more to those threads than the couple of mean people, and I guess many of us hoped that you could read the our posts and take the constructive criticism and advice and see if any of it was helpful to you.
I'm just not sure what is helpful when someone writes that their therapist has been abusive and doesn't understand them, for me, the helpful thing would be to suggest alternative ways to get new treatment. Or if someone writes that their marriage is abusive, for me, the helpful thing would be to encourage them to get to a safe place.
But that isn't what you needed, I guess?Sympathy can feel wonderful at the time, but it might not be the most helpful thing for a person to receive. If someone sees someone about to walk into a hole, they reach out and try to guide them away from it.
You can help yourself, Kerria. And I know that many people on these forums have said that, and I wonder what you think of that statement? You have the power to help yourself, parts of you are strong enough to work a job and manage a home, you're strong enough to deal with awful pain and you're strong enough to find a new t to replace one that you felt was a very negative influence in your life.Already your voice here is very different from your voice at that other forum, much stronger, and much more self aware. I hope the new T was a good experience, and that you won't have to work with the other T who was mean to you.
I think people did not jump into that thread to respond to the people who were being mean because we wanted to continue to give support to you, not turn the thread into a big fight that might get shut down
Meg.
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