Posted by bent on October 21, 2006, at 16:40:00
In reply to connection with T?, posted by sunnydays on October 21, 2006, at 15:45:19
I do this a lot. Most times it takes a few weeks before i notice that i am disrupting the connection. I think for me its mostly a defense. A pulling back of my feelings, and severing the connection a little. Probably because I get afraid of being hurt or rejected, even though I am certain my T isnt going to do that. Sometimes I just feel so young and react that way. Thats how I make sense of it anyway.
I think you are on to something with the depression part though. I think I am less willing to open up to my T at first, when I feel my depression coming back. I think that sitting there in a session with something like depression (or anything you might not be saying but is in your mind) getting worse, defintely breaks up the connection. I guess thats why its important to be so honest with our T's. Easy to say.
I am glad you plan to talk to him about it. I would have to say that is the best thing I have done to restore that missing connection. I usually find that it comes back quickly. I hope it will for you.
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