Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2006, at 8:56:12
In reply to Can't versus Won't versus Don't..., posted by Racer on October 6, 2006, at 2:51:05
I struggle with this myself. A lot. I always assume that if I once could, I can now if I just try hard enough. So clearly I must not be trying hard enough.
My therapist doesn't help much, alternating between telling me that I'm not lazy and telling me to just act like a grownup at work.
So sometimes I know in my heart that I'm trying as hard as I can, and I despise myself for not being able to do it anyway, and sometimes I assume I'm being lazy, and I despise myself for being lazy.
Hey.
Neither of those is very good. :(
But oddly, I don't think those things of others. I tend to think that they're doing their best given what's happening to them, and that given what's happening to them, they're succeeding well. I guess for others, I recognize external factors, while for myself I only recognize internal ones.
poster:Dinah
thread:692309
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