Posted by Racer on October 6, 2006, at 2:51:05
This still confuses me. My T told me today that I wasn't doing certain things because I "can't" right now. Admittedly, I do waste a lot of energy berating myself for the things I "don't" do, but I still think of myself as being able to do these things, and just not doing them. In other words, "don't" or "won't" but not "can't."
Yes. I am very depressed again. I am spending large amounts of time lying on the sofa with -- well, the quilt died about the time my friend who made it died, so it's a throw blanket there now, but it's over my head. I'm not doing a lot of things that need to be done. And I'm suffering -- a lot -- over that. I know I'd feel at least a bit better if these things were done. I'm still not doing them.
So I feel stuck.
Which isn't actually the point I was trying to get some input on: how can I tell if I "can't" do something? How can I figure that out? Is it that I "won't" or just "don't" or really "can't?"
Would I be better off if I admitted that I "can't" do these things right now, and then stopped trying?
poster:Racer
thread:692309
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