Posted by Lindenblüte on October 3, 2006, at 8:57:26
In reply to Re: Hubby trubble**trigger?** » muffled, posted by TherapyGirl on October 3, 2006, at 7:48:28
Hey Muffled,
have you guys ever tried cuddling in a non-bedroom place? Somewhere where there's NO chance of going much further than a kiss or a snuggle?Maybe like in the evening when the family is watching TV or something? You can just practice giving him a little kiss on the cheek and hugging him a little bit? Tell him that you love him, and that you're sorry that it's so hard for you right now with S*X.
((((((Mufflie))))))
In the meanwhile, I think you are doing the right thing- you KNOW what the problem is, and you know that you have a few options
1.grit your teeth and get it over with vs.
2. talk it through in a safe place vs.
3. avoid AVOID! AAAAhhh avoid!am I forgetting any?
Well, have you and your guy ever had a conversation about the intimacy stuff before? It might be time to have another conversation. (see option 2). You got any funny g/f in real life that you talk to about this stuff? I had a VERY interesting conversation with 2 of my good friends about all kinds of juicy experiences. Perhaps most interesting to me was that the woman I thought of as ultra-confident and an early maturer didn't lose her V until she was in her 20's. The woman I thought of as having zero intimacy issues is not afraid to be worshipped as the 3rd person in a menage a trois, but is worried that she will never be fully committed to only one man for the rest of her life. So? We ALL have our issues. This one sounds really really normal really typical. You CAN and will get over it.
Maybe there will be some times when it feels like your husband is asking you to get on a scary roller coaster, and you DON'T WANT to, but part of you knows that it will be okay in the end, and you might even have fun, if you let yourself! (I prefer this metaphor to the gritting your teeth one.)
Good luck today. I'll be thinking of you :)
((((Muff))))
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