Posted by muffled on October 2, 2006, at 22:27:31
In reply to Re: Hubby trubble**trigger?** » TherapyGirl, posted by Lindenblüte on October 2, 2006, at 21:55:03
> Hi Muffled,
> I'm so glad your husband is a wonderful man. It makes other things more bearable. Maybe you can talk about this relationship next time you see T. You can tell her that there is always a difficult awkward "homecoming" readjustment, but that this time it's particularly strange.***Hmmmm, that seems clear....................mebbe you can go FOR me????????????????????Sigh.
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> Tell her that the thing that bothers you the most has to do with your sexual relationship, and then let her kind of help you- lead you in the right direction. She may help you understand that the intimacy problems are related to other things that you aren't really aware of (and I DON'T mean childhood stuff either!)***Ewwwwwwww!DOUBLE Ewwwwwwwwww! Hate the word 'sexual'(ugh!)and hate the word 'relationship'(yuk).
Sorry. I'm getting a little punchy or something. Dunno.
It may be related to my irl kids. My daughter will be in our bed(which is fine), but in the a.m., my hubby'll "snuggle" closer etc, WHILE SHE IN THE BED. And that just freaks me entirely. He's just trying to have a little fun, he'd send her out to watch TV if we actually DID something. But it puts me right off. And I've told him so.
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> Of course, if it's been a while, well, you have to get to know your husband all over again. It's really strange sometimes, and I've been there. Sometimes it will feel right up to a certain point and then I'm like. OMG! who IS this guy?!?***Yeah, it is like that. I feel like a Ho.
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> Maybe you two should get a babysitter and go out on an old-fashioned date. Have a nice relaxing dinner out. Look in his eyes and get to know him again. I read somewhere that guys can't feel intimate unless having sex. Women can't have sex without feeling intimate. Bummer, huh?
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> -Li
***thats funny, Damos said the same thing.
I dunno. Its not that easy to get away cuz my son does sleep terrors. Besides, if I let him buy me supper, he'll expect something!!!!LOL.
Thanks Li.
Take care.
Muffled
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