Posted by annierose on September 30, 2006, at 7:40:32
In reply to Re: therapy, yoga and t's comments .... » annierose, posted by Daisym on September 29, 2006, at 22:49:37
I do think we are on the same path so much of the time --- approaching the same feelings from different aspects but painful ones nonetheless.
>>>And why did her tone hurt so much -- who did it remind you of?<<<
I told her right away she sounded like my mother. I said, "I hear my mom saying, don't trust anyone, no one is going to like you, don't get too close or you are going to get hurt."
To me "Nothing lasts forever" was my T saying, "You are such a foolish girl to think that this attachment is going to last forever. I can't wait to get you moved on and out of my office." But I didn't tell her that part. I didn't realize how strong that feeling is stuck in there too. WOW! (lightbulb goes on in my brain). I guess it's good to shine light on my feelings every now and then ...
I'm sorry that the 5 year old is scared of T right now. She wants to hold his hand. That's appropriate. All 5 year olds want their daddy to take them by the hand, to go skipping or just to cross the street. I know why it's terrifying too.
How come the nicest people have the most pain? Your T and mine do want to help make the pain go away. It just takes so much time and often we can't see the path that we are on is taking us there. I often tell T that I feel we are going in circles. Back to that darn spiral metaphor again.
>>>I'm having a hard time wanting anyone else to fill these needs<<<
That is what started this entire session on Tuesday. I was telling her how scary it will be to leave her one day. That's when she said, "Nothing lasts forever." But at first she said, "You can't imagine it because you are not ready to leave yet. We are still working on this project we have taken on together. You're not there."
Yes, I think you are right. It's a trust thing --- at the most basic level. Is it more about not trusting ourselves or not trusting them? Hmmm.
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