Posted by Jost on August 2, 2006, at 18:06:10
In reply to Re: he's going 2 the beach and i'm feeling miserab, posted by Karolina on August 1, 2006, at 22:19:45
I'm sorry to hear that it's tough for you when your T is away. You're not the only one-- you can work on it, and it'll get better over time. Even if it take a long time--which it did for me-- I've started to feel better.
Try not to blame yourself. It's not your fault, at all-- and try not to focus on psychiatrict categories, unless it makes you feel better.
If having a diagnosis says to you that there's definite, recognizeable problem, one that can be helped-- fine.
If it makes you feel bad-- if it starts to take on the meaning: "I'm a bad/worthless/useless person, or "person who can't be helped," or "person that no one would want to help"-- then you're using it against yourself. That's not what these categories are good for.
They mostly help people (ie, psychologists) feel more solid, more able to cope with things-- rather than having them seem amorpous, or alien. Sometimes they suggest that certain medications might help--
Missing someone you depend on is hard enough without your turning against yourself, for feelings that you have.
If email helps, and he's okay with that-- why not? I'd go for it.
Jost
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