Posted by llrrrpp on July 19, 2006, at 22:41:43
In reply to Re: Something individual came out in marriage sess » Racer, posted by Jost on July 15, 2006, at 19:01:01
how about an attempt to "reframe" your accomplishments, since I just learned what that was while catching up on babble tonight
Don't think about the final grade. That's a letter, on a piece of paper.
Think about the work that you did. The dedication towards making academics a real priority in your complicated life. Think about what you learned. Think about the projects that you completed- what kind of skills you have. Think about success less as a pass/fail judgment (as if bestowed upon only the worthy by some super-human instructor) but rather as a gauge, like a gas meter. If it's low, you work harder, if it's full enough, you know you've got enough power to get where you're going, regardless of whether the tank is filled to the brim.
I hope you don't set your standards so high only to give yourself a good excuse to beat yourself up. (I'm sure you've heard this one before?!?)
I'm proud of you, and it sounds like your husband is proud of you too. My mom was an instructor at a community college for many years. She had a degree from an Ivy League university and LOVED her job. If you had gotten an A in her course, it meant that you learned a lot and that you were really motivated and trying hard
love yourself :o)
-ll
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