Posted by Jost on July 15, 2006, at 19:01:01
In reply to Re: Something individual came out in marriage sess, posted by Racer on July 15, 2006, at 16:56:21
What do you want to accomplish that you haven't, Racer?
Because while I fully empathize with the sense of failure, and non-accomplishment, what you have or haven't done is not an account of what you can do in the future.
I've spent lots and lots of time berating myself for not having done anything worthwhile-- but spending time berating myself, and dealing with emotional fall-out of my self-reproach-- is a significant part of why I never did anything (to the extent that I never did, if I didn't). Or what I did instead of doing "something."
So, what would you like to do? say in the next five years? cause you (or I) could start working on that-- rather than being sad, or angry, at ourselves for what we didn't do before.
Are you working toward something? even a short-term something, that could be part of a longer-term something?