Posted by Dinah on July 14, 2006, at 16:24:50
In reply to Something individual came out in marriage session, posted by Racer on July 14, 2006, at 1:26:09
As a former academic overachiever I understand this perfectly. Except for the part where you downplay what you've done academically. An A is an A. You can't compare it to anything else, because nothing else was there to compare it with. There's no saying you wouldn't have gotten the same score wherever you were.
It's not of course all you have, any more than it was all I had. But it can feel that way when you're in an academic setting.
I wish I knew the answer.
I'm not sure how you convince yourself you're good enough. I'm not sure reason works too well in convincing yourself of the truth of your goodness in the face of visceral insistence otherwise. But it can't hurt to start there.
It sounds as if you have a husband who understands a bit? And thinks you underestimate yourself?