Posted by caraher on July 13, 2006, at 11:39:49
In reply to so jealous..., posted by Karolina on July 12, 2006, at 22:06:53
> He mentioned awhile back about how he was very fond of one particular girl and that she thought of him as a friend and all this stuff and it just made me feel sick. I don't want to hear about his other therapeutic relationships. Am I being unrealstic and selfish for being upset about him caring about other female clients? I don't know why this bothers me so much.
I agree with what annierose said. And I think it probably isn't appropriate for him to talk about his special fondness for another client (male or female). It's one thing to acknowledge that he cares for his other clients and says many of the same kind things to them that he does to you, but quite another to talk about feelings for particular clients, especially in a way that implicitly elevates them above his other clients (and, in particular, over the client to whom he tells this!). You're quite right not to want to hear about his other therapeutic relationships. And whether the T is male or female, I'd feel upset to hear that one or more other clients are friends or otherwise special when it isn't clear whether or not I belonged to that group.
So no, you are neither unrealistic nor selfish to feel the way you do. I think your T has given you too much information about other clients and should know better than to do that.
> Is there a way to bring up this desire without sounding like a desperate moron? I don't know why I wish so badly that he'd offer some sort of physical comfort again, but I want it so badly. I don't even mean anything sexual. Just something caring or comforting. I am miserable right now.
You said he'd hugged you before. Perhaps you could simply ask? I don't think you sound like a desperate moron. It's perfectly natural to need loving (not to say sexual!) physical contact.
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