Posted by Jost on July 12, 2006, at 22:39:07
In reply to so jealous..., posted by Karolina on July 12, 2006, at 22:06:53
There are times when inevitably you might wonder about how much your T cares about other people--whether other patients or family. It can be hard, if you wonder, how much he cares, and whether it's "real."
I've been in and out of that emotion with some therapists--- and the only place I come out is that you can't compare caring, and caring for one person doesn't diminish caring for another.
This caring exists on a kind of existential plane-- it's as deep and meaningful as you can make it. There's a kind of freedom, and potential for nurturing you as a person that isn't bounded even if the relationship, and the way the relationship is acted out, is bounded and constrained. it takes time for that to develop, though.
If that sounds overly logical, and unemotional-- it isn't to me.
At this moment, you feel a need for reassurance that he cares.
There's nothing wrong with that-- and I hope you find what you need. Maybe it will or won't be physical. But there can be ways other than physical expression (as great as that could be if he's comfortable with it--but this differs among Ts). If you talk about what would connect you to his caring, maybe together you can create it, whether in tone of voice, a hug or things he can say.
He's come through for you before.
Jost
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