Posted by one woman cine on April 26, 2006, at 7:48:40
In reply to Re: Pls read: hubby goes to female T/T is your hubby » orchid, posted by Tamar on April 25, 2006, at 20:30:02
Tamar,
I really liked your post and I think you've hit the nail on the head. I do think feelings are useful and no matter what they are, are not harmful & can actually serve both parties in the therapeutic process. I think I said as much in my previous thread. However, I'm worried that what I did say has lead to hard feelings and misconstruction of my words and what I was conveying. I don't think its ever the clients'/patients problem as to anyone's feelings except their own. Everyone in that process is responsible for themselves, including the therapist. I am in therapy so I am no stranger to transference either. My only point of contention is when the therapy spills out of the the therapeutic space (whatever the agreed upon space is, by the way) and intrudes upon mine. I don't think that's wrong of me to feel upset (not to mentioned alarmed), when a patient decides(?) to transgress the therapeutic boundaries and intrude upon the personal life of the therapist et al. I don't think it happens often, but trust me - it happens. I think if anyone here was stalked, people here would empathize with that. But because I was stalked by a patient - no one really cares & it seems like it's OK for that to happen. It's absolutely not. Does this mean I'm condemning patients? Absolutely not, but I am justifiably upset when it happens. It seems like it's OK because a patient is curious, to call their therapists home phone number, to follow them, etc etc. & I think therapy is unique, but so are alot of things, it doesn't give anyone the right to invade someone's privacy. I would just like a little slack for some traumatic events that have happened to me, but I don't seem to get it. Instead, I'm feel as if I'm being raked over the coals for just trying to defend myself and my personal space - which every person has a right to. Enough said.
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