Posted by Emily Elizabeth on March 4, 2006, at 0:31:56
In reply to Re: To Group, or not to Group...(trigger) » Emily Elizabeth, posted by Daisym on March 3, 2006, at 23:27:13
> That said, I can't imagine any therapist, woman or man, who could be better to work with around the csa stuff.I think that is lovely. I'm so glad that you found your way to him. :)
I've heard people talk about not being able to work with a man because of the trust issues. I get that. But my therapist makes me feel safe, alternating between being sad with me, him feeling protective and letting me know when he is, and pushing me gently to tell him the details. And understanding just how much support I need to get through it all. I'm sure there are other experienced therapists who could do as good a job. But I think it is their experience and approach, not their gender. (I'm not arguing with you, I hope you know. It just has come up on this board before about whether a man can really be effective in working with this "woman's issue.")
Yeah, and to be honest, I know that part (but not all) of my opinon on this comes from my own distrust of men.
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> You make a very sensible suggestion about going a few times and stopping if it isn't working. My question is how do you know if it is painful and uncomfortable in a good way, vs. a bad way?I think it will be really important to discuss the experience openly w/ your T and the group leader. They can help you get a sense about whether the level of discomfort and stress that you are experiencing is to be expected, or if it is extreme. But, most of all, you must listen to yourself. I really believe that you will know for yourself whether it is too much or not. If you feel like you cannot take it, then it is not the right time.
Best,
EE
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