Posted by Daisym on March 3, 2006, at 23:09:54
In reply to Re: To Group, or not to Group...(trigger) » Daisym, posted by TherapyGirl on March 2, 2006, at 15:54:20
I'm glad my writing helps you. I often think I write too much, put too many "he said, she said" things into my posts. I have babble-writestoomuch-syndrome!
I tried a writing exercise Wed night using Pfinstegg's idea of a family meeting between parts. It was really amazing how easy it was to do. I imagined us all in my therapist's "tree house" office and essentially just took notes about the discussion. The meeting centered on how to feel safe in therapy again and how to keep the connection to my therapist strong. I took the writing into therapy on Thursday and we went through it. Each part was represented and my therapist took time to figure out what each part wanted/needed to feel safe. There isn't agreement so he had to do a lot of listening. What we came to was that the youngest part needed it to be OK to want to sit in his lap and/or hug him and to hold on to his talisman again. (have you read about the talisman?) He said he was struck by the fact that on Wed he almost suggested taking it back for awhile because that part of me seemed to really need that concrete reminder. He said it was nice that we were on the same wave length. :) We concentrated on this youngest part because her neediness is making me nuts and is very painful to try to contain. The other parts each got homework - the angry part needs to find some competitive, physical outlet to let off some steam, even if it is breaking dishes. The sad part is to finish the poem she is writing and bring it in to therapy to share. And the adult part, "me" is supposed to just let the dependency/attachment feeling be OK this weekend. No fighting them, no worrying about therapy ending, no shouldn'ts. I'm just supposed to let go and sink into it.
And after that, try to make a decision about joing the group on Monday. I think my therapist heard me say that starting a group feels like the beginning of the end of our relationship so he wants me to believe that this just isn't true. And he doesn't want me to push myself to join the group just to take care of him. So we still have some talking to do about it.
sorry this reply got so long. I guess I still have a lot to process about this week. See -- babble-writestoomuch-syndrome!
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