Posted by annierose on January 26, 2006, at 18:04:59
In reply to Re: I still miss her » annierose, posted by crushedout on January 26, 2006, at 12:52:34
I hope I not leading you to make a decision either way. I just wanted you to feel that it's okay to still have these feelings after 18? months. It was an important relationship for you. The grief process is a long one. I wanted you to know that all those feelings came back for me after 1 or 2 visits, even after a 15 year seperation. But like GG said, I'm not sure your former T handled her boundaries with you well. I can't remember all the details, but I do recall your painful sessions.
I like GG's idea of writing a letter. I wrote to my T almost every Christmas --- I skipped a few. She NEVER responded for 15 years. So if you decide to write AND mail, keep in mind she may decide not to respond. For me, it was okay. I just wanted her to know that I was doing good. I had gotten married, opened my own business, had 2 children --- I wasn't mad at her, I just wanted her to know I had gone on with my life.
Also, keep talking about this with your current T. She seems really good. Ask her these questions you pose here. Ask her everything. I think she will be the most helpful.
((((((((((CRUSHED))))))))))))
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