Posted by gardenergirl on January 8, 2006, at 14:42:44
In reply to Re: Oh lordy, someone make the pain go away! » gardenergirl, posted by JenStar on January 2, 2006, at 18:27:07
> I'm sorry that your family is not more open with their feelings, and I hope that they DO have lots of love/caring/affection for you, even if they don't show it often enough on the outside.
Thanks. It's hard, but I'm very fortunate that one side of the family sort of makes up for the other. And the other side is making some gains in this department. It's felt like a blessing, and I'm glad.
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> And I really am sorry that your hubby is not being supportive. It's always a risk to "dis" someone's spouse, esp. since things always (hopefully!) get betterYes! :)
> but he DOES sound like he's acting more on the jerky side, and less on the nice side these days. You truly deserve more, and I hope he can learn to give it to you.
Thanks. Yeah, he was not really what I felt I needed. Although I recently read the first post in this thread again--the one I had showed him. In reading it again, I noticed that it does talk about him and how I felt let down more than I realized. I thought that had been a very tiny part of the post. And I also don't think my post came close to expressing that pain and how very bad it was. At least not to him, who is not so skilled in the language of emotions. I can see now how he reacted as he did. Amazing what a clearer head and some time and assistance to analyze things can do, eh?
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> Couples therapy could be a great thing if he's open to it...We're taking steps to make that happen. Yikes. It scares me, so I can only imagine how he's feeling.
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> Do you have any friends who could help shoulder some burden? Even if it's a risk, do you think you MIGHT consider being open and honest and downright needy with some family members?Actually, I talked to my mom a bit, and she has been somewhat supportive. Of course as I type this, I am remembering that telling my mother anything is telling the entire family. Oy! Didn't think about that. Maybe that's why I don't usually go to her with problems.
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> I hope things get better soon. Take care of yourself!Thanks.
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