Posted by gardenergirl on January 8, 2006, at 14:32:11
In reply to Re: Oh lordy, someone make the pain go away!, posted by LauraBeane on January 2, 2006, at 12:32:57
> They were and somehow remain so much a part of our childhood. So of course the child inside needs to be comforted. That kind of goes without saying.
Actually, it's good to be reminded of this. Thanks. It sort of explains some of my feelings I've tried to figure out in my "adult" mode.
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> Your family is very fortunate to have you to take care of things. That in itself is a tough job; to do it, you have to hold all that emotion in. I hope you can delegate some of it at some point. It would be good for them. :-)Thanks. Actually, after reading your post, the next time I had to do something, I asked my mom to pass the word and make a couple of calls. She pretty much would call anyway, so this worked out fine for both of us. Good advice, thanks.
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> Maybe your husband's reaction speaks more about his own fears of inadequacy than about your needs. Maybe something to explore... but later.I think that's probably true. I had a very hard time last week seeing anything from his point of view. But the last few days are better. I'm feeling more able to see beyond my own feelings, actions, needs, etc. in order to see how the dynamic between the two of us is contributing to how I'm feeling.
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> for now I hope your therapist has given you some of the support that you need and very rightfully deserve. I am sorry for your loss.Thanks.
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