Posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2006, at 7:06:03
In reply to Re: OMG. Am I too needy? » gardenergirl, posted by Larry Hoover on January 1, 2006, at 12:18:41
> You're not too needy, hon. You're starved.
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> Would you tell someone in sub-Saharan Africa they're too needy for wanting a bigger bowl of food, when they haven't eaten a thing in days? And that pattern has gone on for months? Nuh-uh.Oh lordy, Larry. You really do get it. It's hard for me to express just how much I've missed and need. My husband just doesn't get this at all. Starved is exactly the way to put it. I think my T said that once, too. And just reading that word gives me such an emotional punch (in a good way), I know it's right. Stinks, but it's right.
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> You didn't miss the boat. He's never put one in the water. He's not tapped out. He doesn't even know what one looks like.Yeah, and when I'm not so upset, I can feel sorry for him for this.
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> I wish I could just hold you until you had enough, and then a little longer anyway. And listen, until you were too tired to talk. It's normal to want that. I'm very sorry you don't have that, IRL.Oh Lar. What a beautiful wish. That's really want I need. I asked emmy in an IM if she would feed me, tuck me into bed, and then stay with me til I fell asleep. I just want to feel cared for and loved. Even a little bit. (here come the tears again)
Thank you for getting it and validating how I'm feeling.
And for the bear hug. :)
Want to think about teaching a course for husbands on sensitivity? Or at least on the power and necessity of bear hugs?
gg
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