Posted by Emily Elizabeth on January 1, 2006, at 13:54:54
In reply to OMG. Am I too needy?, posted by gardenergirl on January 1, 2006, at 9:21:40
Okay, first you need a really big hug. ((GG))
Now I will share with you the wise advice my T gave me when I had spent the previous 50 min grieving and crying about my grandmother's death: drink plenty of water.
Seriously. That's what she said. Crying for long stretches is very dehydrating and so you should make sure to drink plenty of water. It was both cute and comforting. And I think that in a way it is very deep: there is no way to "fix" the pain of grief. No perfect words that will make it better. It hurts. A LOT. And so the best we can do is try to help a person along that difficult grief journey.
I think that the other point in this is that you can't forget to take care of yourself. You need to take care of you before you worry about the needs of your entire family. (Also, could you "assign" one of your sibs to check in w/ dad or something else?)
Also, I think that it is pretty darn needy to tell your grieving wife who struggles w/ severe depression that she is being needy. Grrr. Marriage is about give and take. Some days/months/years/decades one needs to take more than the other. I could go on and on about this one, but I suspect that this is not the time for that. I DO think that hubby should think about his own therapy.
A few more hugs our favorite GG: ((((GG)))) And a glass of water too!
Best,
EE
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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