Posted by Shortelise on December 13, 2005, at 13:26:34
In reply to Unmotivated but happy. A kind of depression?, posted by Alara3 on December 13, 2005, at 9:09:19
Alara, You know our homrones get all outta whack when we have a baby. And hormones control our moods. So, it stands to reason that our behaviour might change as the result of having a baby. Depression as a result of that is called the baby blues, as everyone knows. But I think little attention may be paid to other changes.
It may be that although you are sleeping, you are not getting rest for some reason. Maybe you are hypersensitive to every sound so you don't sleep deeply enough?
THen there is what a friend of mine called "baby brain". SHe swore that until the kid was a year old, she had a case of stupid that she could not overcome. It started when she was about halfway through her pregnancy, and lasted until the baby waas a year old.
If'n it were me, I'd talk with someone. Start with your doc at baby's next checkup, and be prepared for them to ask if you ever think about harming your baby. They always ask that. Very, very rarely women get that wacky. You are not, obviously.
One of the things I find so helpful about therapy is that my therapist normalises things for me. SOme things that make me feel I'm nuts are in fact not as unusual as I imagine.
As for comparing yourself to others, well, it sounds like it's not helpful.
I don't know what your life has been like, nor what your marriage has been like, but what I imagine is that you've just had a baby, are in that wonderful, dreamy contentment that some parents experience, and you are just having a fine time being with the perfect creature that is your child. It's a very intimate thing, a beautfiul thing.
Soon, there'll be playgroups, and playdates, and walks, swimming, music play, and all sorts of things that will take the two of you out into the world more often.
You might try one of those lights - what are they called?? Dammit. Anyway, they come on in the morning, are like daylight, and are supposed to help wake us up.
But, all that said, I repeat that you might choose to talk with someone. That you are writing to us here hints that maybe there is more underneath, and maybe you know deep down that it's time to ask for a hand.
((Alara))
ShortE
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