Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2005, at 22:55:38
In reply to Re: Therapy anniversary ramblings » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on December 8, 2005, at 21:53:03
> lol. I think it came out fine.
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> I do remember your anxious-card-time! But that was 10 years, right? Huge!Yep. Going on eleven now. Feels strange. :)
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> Oddly, it seems like I still want to do it, but it's actually *not* such a big deal. Hard to know if I should view that as good or bad. But I'll bet waiting to see what he says about it (4 days) will be a *plenty big deal*!I *hate* waiting, but I'm getting better at it I guess. Don't forget to update us!
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> I like your husband's saying very much :-) Except, I suppose, if he uses it as part of justification to not commemorate anniversaries (err...wedding?) that are important to you! Then, I wouldn't like his saying so much any more at all. ;-) But that doesn't sound like him.I'm more likely to forget than he is! I think it's more a general protest at the intensity of expectations of "special" days. I kind of like his saying too. :)
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> This is good...this just reminded me of another thing I said to my T. while he was trying (and failing) to look all cool and collected about his audacity in checking my memory for important dates. I told him he's lucky this isn't a different sort of male/female relationship, 'cause the forgetting-the-exact-date part would put him in real hot water with me!
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> That got me a smile and a laugh.
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> {psst...Dinah....don't tell anyone, but I'm pretty sure you're not the only one who's doing some nonsexual flirting in therapy...and, I know it's waaaaay lovely for me to make him laugh....}
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lol. Yes. Even when I didn't intend to make him laugh, and even when I don't really get what he's laughing at (and he always explains if I look puzzled) I love when he laughs.I think I'm going to have to recognize that I'm swinging too far in that direction, though. I guess since Daddy's death, I've been trying to take parts of that relationship and stick it into this one. I wonder if my therapist realizes. *I* am sure not going to tell him.
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