Posted by Dinah on December 6, 2005, at 17:01:27
In reply to Re: Didn't chicken out after all, in the end » Dinah, posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 14:23:24
> > And we changed the goal from growing up my "little girl" as she calls it. I let her know that I'd worked hard and long to accept and respect that part of me, and that that approach was better overall for my life.
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> Yeah, I can imagine that. I suppose… I wonder how much that part of you is willing to share your body with the mother or wife part of you. But I’m probably talking rubbish. It’s just… sometimes I have to tell myself I’m allowed to be an adult. But it’s probably a different thing…:)
You're such a dear, Tamar.
I think... I think that there's a *fairly* good working relationship right now. It's just that sex causes so much intense fear and anger that it swamps any good intentions I might have about division of labor, so to speak. I think there's general agreement within myself, with T1, and now with T3, that the goal ought to be to leave adult things to my most adult part of myself. But the anxiety has to lower enough for my emotional self to take a temporary leave of absence during sex, so to speak. That's the current goal. I think *all* involved would approve of that goal. :)
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