Posted by Happyflower on October 30, 2005, at 20:32:45
In reply to Re: Thanks to everyone » Happyflower, posted by fallsfall on October 30, 2005, at 19:17:37
> My therapist didn't tell me for sure that she was coming either. I didn't know that she had been there until I saw her at our next session. Maybe they don't want to promise us something and not be able to keep that promise for some reason (like they have a sick kid or something). So they tell us that they MIGHT come.
This makes sense why they would do this. I told him that I would see him because I look at all the audience. But my T said he would come in a discuise with a hat and sunglasses! I think he was joking. Then he said he might be dancing in the isles singing, go trumpets, blow those notes or something like that. He even did the dance on the way out of the room! LOL I told him just don't tell anyone I know him, if he decides to dance and sing in the isles. LOL
> You could bring it up like this "This weekend I was agonizing over something, so I guess we should probably discuss it. I'm really conflicted over whether I want you to come to my concert or not". The discussions that have to do with our reactions TO THEM can be very valuable. They can be really hard, too. But I usually figure that this is what I'm paying money for - so I don't want to lose the therapeutic opportunity, so I just barrel into it.
I still don't know if I have the guts to bring this up. I am a big chicken! :) Plus we have my marriage to talk about too. It seems like I need a double session or more often than once a month. Maybe I am not ready for once a month. But then again, I could always call for an extra session.
> I also sense that you are having trouble accepting that you are special, but not very special. What would it mean to be very special to him? Is being just "special" not a good thing?
Yeah, I don't know what being special really means . I know what he means by "very" special, he means like his wife or daughter. But he doesn't tell me I am just special either, and I already know I am not "very" special because he told me and I already knew that. Duh! I guess it would feel good to be special to him but he said he treats all his clients the same way so being special to him is out of the question, and being very special would mean he would divorce his wife and be with me. (not likely) So I guess I can only go by his actions, not his words. T's can make therapy is so hard sometimes.
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