Posted by orchid on September 19, 2005, at 3:08:37
In reply to I wish, posted by messadivoce on September 19, 2005, at 1:55:10
That was beautifully written.
I am sorry you are still feeling bad after 2 years.
I am sure your ex T was great. But perhaps, you can try to find that same greatness in people who are more available to you than kind of long for a mirage. Even if he was the best in the whole world, he still is a mirage to you - not really available to take care of you. So that makes him not that great FOR YOU. There are two things - 1. If a person is good. 2. If a person is good for you. Please try to think of a person more in terms of the latter rather than in terms of the first.
Once you realize he isn't good for you anymore, it will be easier to move away.
Please ignore my post if this is unsolicited advice. :-)
But it is really possible to completely overcome transference, and move on, and look back with just warm feelings and no longing. It is possibly by working through it.
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