Posted by Racer on September 15, 2005, at 20:17:53
In reply to *Trigger* Why crying isn't okay *Trigger*, posted by jammerlich on September 11, 2005, at 16:07:00
I used to be much more embarrassed by my crying, because of all the times as a kid when I was ridiculed for crying, and told I had to "toughen up."
Then I had some friends who used to tease me about crying at movies. We'd rent movies, pour out a glass of wine, cuddle into out chairs with dog or cat -- and someone would say, "Whoops! Nearly forgot!" She'd come back and plop a box of tissues down beside me, and everyone would laugh. The first time or two, I was uncomfortable with this -- expecially since they'd even get the tissues for things like "The Princess Bride" since it includes historical costumes, which they said was enough to set me off -- but once I realized that they were doing it INclusively, rather than EXclusively, it became quite cozy. I could start to enter into the joke, because it was so clear that they were making it OK for me to cry.
I don't know if that makes any sense, but it really did help me to have my easy crying accepted by others. Made it much easier for me to accept it, too.
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