Posted by fairywings on September 3, 2005, at 20:38:59
In reply to Re: Crisis - poss trigger again (long) » kerria, posted by Racer on September 3, 2005, at 17:25:19
> OK, so they all know one another.
The *only* way to find out if another therapist out there is a better fit for you is to try.
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> As for not being able to find anyone to see you, I just went through something very, very similar.
>I agree with Racer on this Kerria. I just switched Ts too, they both work in the same office. Their doors are adjacent to one another, and the new T didn't turn me down. I like him much better, he's much kinder, I feel much safer with him, and in 2 sessions have covered more ground than in 8 with the last T. I have really high hopes for you that you can at least make some attempts to find someone who will be more supportive and kinder to you.
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> Basically, it sounds as though you are doing something I do a lot. I do this sort of thing with my family a lot. Here's the sort of thinking involved: "I want to say something to my aunt about her saying just now that I should 'get off my fat *ss' [remember the anorexia part], but if I remind her of the anorexia and not to make that sort of comment to me, she'll get defensive,Racer, you must have done a lot of work because you are really smart to understand yourself so well!
I do this too, but not just with family, I do it with everyone. I have been working hard to set boundaries, sounds like you, Kerria, and I need some work in this area.Good luck Kerria, I hope you'll think about finding a new T.
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