Posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2005, at 19:07:08
In reply to Re: If it were next session » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on August 24, 2005, at 18:59:20
> I know he sees me as more than just another client. I really do.
> And I know he wouldn't or couldn't say that he doesn't want me to grow and leave him.> But I still want him to say it.
> I think we all do, don't we? At least in theory. We don't want it to be ok with them for us to leave, or even to partially leave.But then we also want them to want us to get well enough and involved enough with people outside therapy so that we don't need them anymore...
I dunno... Haven't been in a good therapy relationship for long enough to get that stuff going on...
It sounds to me... And maybe I'm way off... Like a bit of a boundary thing. But then IMO the client vs person issue is a bit of a boundary thing as well...
And while we may think we want to cross that boundary we'd probably be mortified (or at the very least very hurt in the long run) if that boundary was crossed...
Because therapy is about YOU.
Your responses and your reactions and its not supposed to be about him.But you kind of do want it to be about him.
But then you probably don't want it to be really...And so it is complicated.
What would it mean to you if he didn't mind so very much?
What would it mean to you if he did?
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