Posted by deborah anne lott on July 30, 2005, at 17:32:56
In reply to Lott: Keeping in touch after a bad therapy (long), posted by crushedout on July 29, 2005, at 14:27:04
First of all, good for you getting out of a therapy that was going waaaaay south. You said that you already know what I would say about your therapist confiding about her personal life, telling you she was attracted to you, and making you a mix CD with romantic songs. Egads!!! I can see why she wouldn't agree with what I say in my book.
So now you've got two competing fantasies going -- it sounds like, writing a letter that will a) somehow enlighten her and turn her into a good therapist (very unlikely, if she hasn't gotten it by now, she's not going to get it); or b)alternately turn her into a lover/friend. If you write her a letter she will probably write back and something will happen but I can almost guarantee you that she will not become a better therapist because of it, and that she would probably not be any better as a friend/lover than she was as a therapist. My guess is that she'd be as insensitive and narcissistic as a friend/lover as she is as a therapist. Anyway, that's what I think and congratulations on getting out of there and into something better.
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