Posted by happyflower on July 28, 2005, at 11:48:22
In reply to Re: why (and how) do you trust your T? (kinda long) » ghost, posted by Shortelise on July 28, 2005, at 1:59:09
When I entered into therapy this Jan., I didn't trust anyone except my DH, and even that took years. I have been sh*t on by a lot of people. Even doctors who you are suppose to trust. My T used to say we have a fedicary relationship (like with a doctor, lawyer, etc.) They are being paid to do a service and we should be about to trust them that they will ethical and all. Well I had some experiences in realtionships like that where my trust was broken. After my T learned about my experinces with some of my doctors and my horriable childhood, he understood why I didn't trust him even though he didn't do anything wrong.
But he was very patient with me and didn't push me at all. He went at my pace. Little by little, I began to trust him. I opened up a little bit more, he was a rock of security for me. I can say I can almost tell him anything. I trust him a lot, not just as a therapist but as a person. He disclosed a lot about himself, which mostly made me feel safe with him.
I have received a lot to rewards learning to trust him, and it has effected my life with others potential people. This happy flower is starting to open up her buds and letting the sunshine beam on my flowers. It is hard, but so worth it.My advice would be just take it day by day, little by little, you will get there. Take as long as you need and don't worry, if they are a good T, they will patient with you. :)
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