Posted by Jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 11:06:47
In reply to T comment about Babble, posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2005, at 23:39:45
> Hi everyone. My T has never really said much about Babble, although since I went to Chicago, he seems to be more aware of my particpation (but not the name, thank goodness.)
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> At any rate, he recently said that although he thinks y'all sound very supportive and he can see how that is helpful, he thought that posting about my therapy and receiving replies "bleeds off the transference."
>Hmmmm..... that's really interesting GG. I think my initial reaction would be feeling flattered that he wants to be the one and only with whom you share that transference. The only one who can see and deal with those intense emotions. BUT, if you were on meds, and they took the edge off those emotions, what then? Wouldn't that also change what he sees, and how you deal with things. Or, if you ran everything by your husband and/or friends. Wouldn't that be expected, and wouldn't that be like what we do here?
I think about stuff between sessions, and even when I hash it out on here, I still have to hash it out again in session because no one can really tell me what's going on in my T's mind, what he was thinking, or how he would handle an issue. Talking about it, and having it normalized seems pretty normal to me. Sharing and being validated seems normal to me too.
On the other hand, if he doesn't want you to post, and you want to be the good client, are you going to feel stifled? Can you discuss with him in 50 min. everything you can discuss on here in a week? Even if you don't post the most emotionally charged stuff, won't you still share it with someone, like Dinah by IM? I can't imagine keeping my feelings to myself for that long! It would drive me bonkers and consume my every waking moment.
I guess I'd have to know what he does and doesn't want me to share, and why.
Jazzy
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