Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2005, at 7:58:29
In reply to Re: Why would a T ask these questions?, posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 22:53:22
Jazzy, I admit to my feelings of transference about him. He really does remind me of biofeedback guy.
But that doesn't mean he's not right for you. That's why there are lots of different sorts of therapists. My therapist isn't right for everyone. Your therapist isn't right for everyone.
If he helps you, that's all that matters. If he doesn't, then he doesn't. If he helps you for a while and you're satisfied with your progress, that's great. If he helps you for a while, but then you feel like you need something different, that's great too.
Part of what therapy is about is learning what *you* need to be a healthy and well adjusted person.
If he's helping you with that, that's great.
As far as odd questions, I think that at the beginning of therapy, most therapists throw their nets wide and look for responses that might guide them in a particular direction. Especially if they are problem solving type therapists. If they find a route that doesn't lead anywhere, the good ones would let it go. But they might find a route that does lead somewhere, but that no one has thought to ask about. So I wouldn't take a wide range of seemingly odd questions as an indication that he has certain assumptions about you. I think he might just be bringing up things that he's discovered might be an issue with people in similar circumstances to yours. Some will be relevant to you, some won't.