Posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 18:46:44
I have begun thinking that this whole phenomena of attraction and falling in love and thinking of another person as soul mate, and I can't live without you kind of thing and obsessing about any person is more about transference than it is anything real.
For instance, I am highly likely to get attracted to any indian guy compares to a chinese guy.. isn't that also transference? I can potentially say a chinese guy I work with is actually a better guy than an indian guy.. and I really might think highly of a chinese guy than an indian guy. But still, I would be more tempted to fall in love only with an indian and not with the chinese (I am just taking chinese as an example - no offense meant).
Isn't it all about how you have been conditioned throughout your life?
If we are all supposed to not act on transference, we should really be able to fall in love with any good person. Not restricted to race/or religion..
So I think the whole concept of "Oh. it is just transference" Or it is all about your past or it all your projection or it is all about your unfulfilled childhood desires or it is all your longing for your dad is not really that true is it?
poster:pinkeye
thread:517652
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