Posted by daisym on April 20, 2005, at 2:16:54
In reply to Re: Isolating is sometimes best, posted by Dinah on April 19, 2005, at 19:15:55
I like all of your ideas, Falls, but I also agree with Dinah. Sometimes there is no energy to post, OR, with me, I want to post 10,000 word essays about what I'm thinking or feeling or doing.
I think isolating, for me, is a way to look at how needy I've been and try to ease off. I don't think I know how to lean only a little bit. I seem to dump it all out there, on a few close friends, or keep it all in, with almost everyone else. I'm also struggling with this idea of sharing the depth of my pain with my spouse and my best friends. My therapist is encouraging it, he applaudes it. So is that a message that he is getting tired of being so much support? I worry...
It is also a way to stay numb. Being with people who care about me makes me aware that I want to be cared about. And I don't want to hurt them or disappoint them. I guess it is an old behavior to make yourself sort of disappear.
Hard not to, you know?
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