Posted by shrinking violet on April 9, 2005, at 12:41:25
In reply to Re: Psychological holding » crushedout, posted by Dinah on April 8, 2005, at 21:05:06
I've experience this a handful of times with my T.....
She has often brought up the concept of figuratively "holding" me, and whatever emotions I need to give her, but I never really understood the concept until I started to feel it.
I'm not sure what happened to bring it on, or why it never seemed to last past a week. I think, the rare times we had a very close intimate exchange (sometimes she'd hug me, sometimes not) or even exchange thoughtful emails, I started to feel very connected to her. It was like I could almost see this invisible thread that connected me to someone in this world (her), and I felt very cared for and loved. I'd never ever experienced this feeling before, so it was very new to me. During these times, I realized that I didn't feel the need to constantly reach out to her to know she was there (through an email, etc), b/c inherently I could feel her there, I knew she was there and secure in the way she felt about me and vice versa. It was a very warm, protected feeling. I often imagined myself sitting in her hands, or curled up inside her heart...That's the only "tangible" way I can explain the feeling. Even my mood improved during these times.
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