Posted by Shortelise on April 9, 2005, at 0:33:12
In reply to bad outcome - please help!, posted by octavia on April 8, 2005, at 21:10:17
Therapy is more about how we react than it is about what the therapist actually does. That's not completely true, but close enough for late at night.
Could it be you are in a place where you neeed to explore strong feelings - no matter what aspect of your therapy brought them out? With me once it was the fact that my T didn't help me with the door when my hands were full. But lots of us get to places where we have this very strong, potent, flammable stuff we have to fight out. We use therapy to do so, because that's one of the things it's for. The therapist is there to be the focus of our anger and to help us figure out the real reasons for it, the true focus.
My husband and I made a promise a long time ago that we would never threaten each other with divorce. If'n I were in your shoes - and I'm not! - I would call and go back to see him. I would ask for the same sort of deal I made with my husband - get as mad as you want, but let's agree that we'll always work it through together.
Octavia, I know you must really be hurting. I would be so so upset if this were me! I'm sorry. I hope you'll phone him, talk with him before he goes away, get this resolved to some extent so you don't have to stew in these awful feelings.
Hugs
ShortE
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