Posted by Pfinstegg on April 9, 2005, at 0:23:37
In reply to bad outcome - please help!, posted by octavia on April 8, 2005, at 21:10:17
To be brief, I think he did a terrible job of handling his countertransference. We'll never know for sure what the main elements of it actually were, but, just guessing, I think he got to like you a lot, and wasn't able to work it through in a professional manner.
I'm very sorry this happened to you, and that you got hurt so badly, because you seem to have started out in such a good way, gradually deepening your confidence and trust in him, and learning how to be open about yourself. All those cancelled appointments, and announcing a vacation at the last minute are extremely unprofessional behaviors on his part. Maybe he doesn't do a lot of psychotherapy, and doesn't know how!
Trust your instincts. If you feel something is really wrong, it is. There are a lot of wonderful therapists out there with great experience, and skill in handling all the vicissitudes of transference and countertransference, who can help people really heal and feel better. You deserve one of those. You could interview several, and choose.
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