Posted by Dinah on March 21, 2005, at 22:19:00
In reply to Re: Fear of Talking, Relationship, Abandonment... » Dinah, posted by Poet on March 20, 2005, at 18:50:55
I think he means that since I feel trust and attachment to him, I should use the relationship strategies I've used with him with others. He wants me to try to reach out to people I'd like to be friends with, that sort of thing.
He's wrong on two counts. First, not everyone can be trusted. In fact, given who I am and what I'm like, not many can be trusted on more than a superficial level. I tend to want too much from people, so it's safer to not want at all. It saves a lot of pain.
And second, the relationship skills I use with him don't go over too well in the real world. The real world is *not* therapy.
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