Posted by littleone on March 8, 2005, at 20:42:35
In reply to Re: Don't know what to do, posted by Skittles on March 8, 2005, at 19:13:39
I know just where you're coming from! Some sessions I cut myself off from my T so much, he's just talking to a brick wall. And all I can think is "I want to go home. I want to go home." And the hour is just torturous, both for me and (I'm pretty sure, although he's never admitted it) my T.
Our card playing has kind of evolved now so that we usually only really play cards if I've written nothing for him or if I'm totally cut off like that. Even though we don't talk therapy stuff when we're playing, I find it is still really helpful. It helps me connect back to him a little. It helps to put the bad stuff away and make his office a bit safer again.
Perhaps you could suggest something like that to your T? It doesn't have to be card playing, it can be anything really that just brings you together and takes the focus off having to talk about stuff.
I think it's much more productive "just playing cards" and strengthening the connection, rather than pounding away at talk stuff and getting nowhere and driving a wedge in between you both.
Although, I've lost count of the number of times I've complained about how wrong it feels to spend $130 to play cards for a while :) I don't even do that at the casino!
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