Posted by alexandra_k on March 6, 2005, at 19:20:48
In reply to The mother, therapy, etc., posted by Skittles on March 6, 2005, at 10:53:55
Aw Skittles, I hate dealing with my parents too :-(
> If this can happen to mother and her clients, it could happen to me and my own T.
Could you tell your t that?
>Talked to my T Friday about how I dreaded calling mother's clients because I know how I'd feel as the recipient of such a call. She said, "Not everyone would feel like you. For a lot of people this is just something they do."
Yeah. Different people are in therapy for different things. Get different levels of attachment etc. She was probably trying to help you feel better by saying that too...
> So, of course that makes me feel terrible about my level of dependence. I am a bad, abnormal, and overly needy client.
If you are then there are a lot of us like that here at Babble!!! I don't think you are 'bad' or 'overly needy' and as for 'abnormal' I am still trying to figure out what 'normal' is supposed to be.
Actually I think therapists don't mind it when we feel like that. It means we are getting attached to them. Nicer to have positive rather than negative transference I would say.
>As I was leaving she told me to feel free to call this weekend. Of course I can't. The builder is absolutely frantic now.
I can be like that too...
But it can be a lonely place to be.
Could you talk to her about how you are worried about how dependent you feel?I don't know.
Just a thought...
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