Posted by pegasus on February 10, 2005, at 17:29:53
In reply to Re: thanks all, posted by pinkeye on February 10, 2005, at 15:34:38
I was having a conversation about this once with my T, and he said that he absolutely didn't like all of his clients. I mean, he liked some and didn't really like others. But when he was working with someone to whom he had trouble developing friendly feelings, then that would need to become part of the therapy. Not that he'd just come out and say, "Hey, I don't like you much. What do you think about that?" But he would point out some of his reactions to things that the client did/said, and explore whether the client received other similar reactions from other people, and how they felt about it, what role that played in their life, etc. I guess the point was that if the therapist is having trouble with a client, then that is probably part of the client's experience with a lot of other people too, and probably part of what they need to be working on in therapy.
So, the point of this was to explain that Ts don't have an obligation to act like they like every client. Sure, they need to have some kind of positive regard for their clients, but if they really don't like someone, then they have an obligation to work with the client on those issues.
I hope that makes sense, and helps you believe that your T probably really did like you if they acted like they did.