Posted by Pfinstegg on December 27, 2004, at 19:34:02
In reply to Re: boring humorless dullard » Dinah, posted by annierose on December 23, 2004, at 21:03:56
Thank you, everyone - voce, Fallen, daisy, Dinah, Aphrodite and LG04. It is very helpful to hear about everyone's differing experiences with their ego states- no two are the same!
As an adult, I tend to talk and interact quite a lot with people, and am considered warm and lively. But gradually, in analysis, a really terrified, silent little girl has appeared. This girl is about 6 years old; she was beaten quite severely, and now, I know that she was molested also. She is so ashamed and guilty, and still thinks the analyst will blame her for what happened. Bit by bit, she tells him more details, and tells him, also, how lonely she is- that part is going well, I think. The part that is so hard for her is to feel comforted and secure with him. She just can't yet imagine anything that good happening, even though that's what she wants more than anything. Well, I can at least say that this is real therapy- it now feels so real and to the heart of things, even though it hurts so much. I told my analyst today that I was hoping some joy and comfort would come later, and he said "it certainly can." I guess not for a while, though!
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