Posted by Aphrodite on November 27, 2004, at 7:50:43
In reply to Re: The Dance of Empathy (long) » Aphrodite, posted by Daisym on November 26, 2004, at 12:45:01
Where did you shop yesterday? I just didn't see any good shoe sales at all! I really wanted some brown, dressy boots. They were all either the 5 inch spiky heel kind or hiking boots. No good sales, either.
Anyway, I've read yet another article about this "faking it" thing I sometimes do. It says that we "test" our therapists to see if this relationship will be different and safe. If there is concern or worry that the T will behave like other relationships, trauma patients will preserve the relationship at the expense of expressing an authentic self. At this point, I am never sure how he will respond to my raw honesty. Sometimes he is incredibly understanding, sometimes he becomes angry, sometimes he gets very upset with me. So I believe I do comply -- I like people to be pleased with me! -- in order to preserve this much-needed relationship.
We started the conversation the other night when I was crying and saying I couldn't be honest with him. He acknowledged his inconsistency but countered that I don't let him in. True enough. I'm interested to find out if things will change with either of us.
Thanks for your support.
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